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The case for progress over perfection
Three ways impostor syndrome is holding you back
The art of letting go
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Stressed Out? 3 Ways to Realistically Find Balance.
Have you ever been told by your doctor that you need to manage your stress levels? You probably nod along in agreement but think to yourself “what does ‘work on my stress’ actually mean?” For most people there’s some confusion and even overwhelm about translating the idea of managing stress into a realistic and effective practice.
I am here to help you break down the question of “what does work on my stress mean” and provide you with three realistic actions you can take to better manage your stress levels.
Are You Preparing or Delaying?
The reality is our brain loves to keep us safe, that’s its main job. So when you decide to set a goal and go for it your brain goes into overdrive anticipating all the ways things could go wrong, how you might fail, how you might look dumb if you don’t succeed.
What to do when you’re not getting the results you want.
Back when I was a competitive figure skater I was a few weeks out from a big competition. As I was preparing and doing run throughs of my programs in the weeks leading up to the competition things were not going well. I was messing up on elements that were normally very easy for me. I could feel the confidence leaving my body with every element that I missed. I remember leaving the practice facility one day feeling completely defeated and I remembered saying to my coach, “nothing is working, I should just withdraw.”
5 signs you’re burnt out and what to do about it.
Let’s rewind to the last week of December 2020. I was working full-time as a therapist seeing 30-35 clients per week in the wake of the pandemic and I was not ok. The last week of December I was sobbing to my mom on the phone, complaining of a host of physical ailments that were abnormal for me.
I was burnt-out and I didn’t know it.
In fact, most people who are burnt out don’t know it.
The Case for Progress over Perfection.
Perfection. We’ve all chased it at some point in our lives.
But guess what? None of us ever achieve it. So, why do we keep running after it? Well, for starters perfection is alluring. It symbolizes a heightened level of wisdom, beauty, knowledge, experience…fill in the blank.
But let me hit you with three truths about perfection.
3 Ways Impostor Syndrome is Holding you Back
Let’s talk about perfectionism’s distant relative, impostor syndrome. Impostor syndrome is a belief that you are less competent, talented, intelligent, etc than what others believe or perceive you to be. Those with impostor syndrome fear their believed shortcomings will be found out and they’ll be exposed for who they “truly” are…incompetent and a failure.
What you think is a problem isn’t the problem.
What you think is a problem isn’t the problem.
You read that right, what you think is a problem generally isn’t the problem.
The art of letting go.
Let me fill you in on a secret. I’ve moved twice within the last year and both times I refused to purge my closet. I told myself “I have so much to pack” “I don’t have time for this” “And I’ll do it later.” This was pure avoidance, if I was being honest with myself I didn’t want to clean out my closet, it’s a task I’ve always struggled with (in a non-hoarder type of way) because I think I’ll learn to like an article of clothing again, fit into it again, or hold onto an outfit for sentimental value.
5 Things that Impede your Goals
Do you have a goal? Something you’ve set your sights and energy on?
BUT…when you drop into working on that goal you feel stagnant, you’re frustrated that you’re not making progress, and you’re on the brink of giving up, or worse, maybe you’ve already given up.
So, let’s talk about five things that are keeping you stuck and holding you back from making progress on your goals.